Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Adams Update

Well...it is hard to believe that Kate is 3 weeks old already! We have been home for two weeks and have survived the newborn obstacles without too many bumps and bruises. It has been easier on some fronts (like many of my friends told me it would be), but it has also been a little more difficult as well.

Jeff has been amazing (as usual) and has done anything and everything in order for me to rest and heal. For those that know me it has been a little hard for me to sit and watch others do things in my house and for my kiddos! I have of course been helping out (as much as they have let me).

Ty has been wonderful. He is at a great age. He likes his sister and wants to know where she is and help her when she is crying, but he also has other things that he feels that he needs to do (play, make noise, help clean & cook, etc.) He is extremely busy and that has added to the stress of taking care of Kate.

My mom always told me that the more children you have the less time you have to journal, keep notes, take pictures and create memory books. I had a hard enough time with Ty so I was positive I couldn't do WORSE with Kate. Poor thing...we have taken a fourth of the pictures that we did with Ty, I haven't even thought about working in her Baby Book, and I feel accomplished to jot down some fun things from each day! I guess she may end up like me, the last of three, with a baby book: A name simply written in the front and then a dozen envelopes, cut out newspaper articles, grade school work, and favorite pictures shoved in the front. I know my mom didn't love me less...just didn't have the time for the details! I now understand. But, do all moms have the guilt with the second and third child, that they aren't getting the best of them as the first child did? Will I always have it? Will I continually worry that Kate will feel like I don't love her as much or will she understand?

I never set Ty down, I never thought to do anything but entertain and give ALL of my attention to Ty. Now, with Kate I am giving time to Ty, cleaning, cooking, working, blogging, etc. Will she know I didn't hold her as much? Will she know that I didn't want to sit in the floor for hours on end, each day and just watch her play? Will she know that I didn't sing to her 40 songs a day like her brother? Or will it just be something I have to deal with? Where to find the balance between giving both of your kids the same or equal? Will it ever feel equal or fair?

Kate is a wonderful baby. She sleeps great, eats great, and has a sweet temperament, except when she is showing a little bit of her temper. She already has a very clear picture of what she wants you to do to make her happy. Funny how they come with huge personalities at birth! She will take a pacifier but doesn't really care for it...she would rather suck her thumb (which she finally found for the first time today, you would have thought she was in HEAVEN). We are trying hard to detract her from her thumb I have heard that is harder to break a child from than a pacifier. We were lucky with Ty, he didn't want either. He just had his snuggly.

Here are a few pictures from our hospital stay and our first weeks at home. We will have more later....I am promising myself to do better at taking more pictures and videos of her!

We can't thank everyone enough for the calls, visits, encouragement, prayers and much more that you have offered. We definitely need the prayers to keep on rolling in! We feel so amazingly blessed.


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5 comments:

Linda said...

Oh Sweetheart! You have to let it all go...I feel awful for not keeping up with Cadi's baby book, but like you said, I just don't have time! (((hugs))) It's ok and of course she will be loved just as much. And I can tell you, Cadi was definitely not held as much...but that is how she preferred it! I was so prepared to co-sleep and babywear again, but from birth she was not happy on me or with me and just did so much better in her bassinet. Each baby is different and I promise lil Kate KNOWS she is loved. I promise this is the best way to help Ty adjust to his new sister...I'm sure she enjoys hearing her Mommy and brother around her and loves the sounds of your voice whether you're singing or talking to brother...I know its just hard to adjust and I remember the mommy guilt too well...but it does go away. Especially now that I see how much Cadi adores her big brother and almost feel bad for lil Jon not having that at her age. ;o)

And Cadi was DEAD set on her thumb...DEAD SET...but I was just persistant with the paci and eventually she gave up on her thumb. ;o) (I was so close to giving in too! But you know me and germs...lol!).

Big hugs Momma!

Jody said...

Dedo~
How beautiful is your sweet family. I have been thinking of you so much. I had dinner with Leanne and she caught me up on your sweet little one.

My sweet little girl gets 1/2 the attention of her brother and they came home together. It's just the way it is. I feel bad for her everyday and pray often that she will always love me even though and know it was just tough.

I love you Sister. I hope you are doing great.
Miss you.
Janell

lizzie said...

Hi, Dedra,
Kate is so cute! I've thought of you often and am glad you are all doing well and Ty is such a good little "helper!" I want to meet Kate soon!

TriSara said...

I think those are some post-birth-hormones talking! Don't let fear take away from the joy of your new family. Easy for me to say as I sit here with normal female hormones :) You guys are a beautiful family! Thanks for the update!

Shana said...

Dedo! How in the world have you been? I found out about your sweet, precious addition through Darren and Deana on Facebook. Deana sent me your blog and I was so excited! I am so happy for you guys. Kate and Ty are just precious and Mom and Dad look wonderful as well!

Lexi is sitting here next to me and she watched the slide show and said "Baby is smiling at me!" It's always all about her. lol! Can't wait to keep up with you guys!
Shana Weatherbee Wolfe